Happiness According to my hubby

"I just saw unhappy face on you, are you Ok?" I start conversation with my husband. I'm just curious coz I didn't see smile at all since he watched news on TV... "What was going on,husband?" I continue my question while picking up his clothes from bed and put it on my lap. Then my husband sit beside me and talk about what he saw on TV. He told about many floods and victims in Indonesia, how often it happened to them and how normal have this events become for them. Then cross on my mind i remembered one article that i read about Happiness this noon. Really, I wanna know the meaning of happiness according to him. He used to give me wise word, I love to hear that again for now...

"Happiness is a big topic my wife, nobody can be happy all the time. It comes and goes. You can be happily married but within marriage you get sad news and you cry. You can be sad and laugh like crazy if u watch a funny movie. Sometime i listen a good song and makes me Happy for 4 minutes. Then after i listen the same song, I'm not that happy anymore. It is a big topic wife. I'm happy with you. You are the best wife for me. There is no better but if i have problem with job and we are in crisis then you will see my face worry. Do you understand?... The sadness in happiness, it is strange, isn't it but it is that way."

"Yes I do.... but I will feel sad if I saw no smile on your face." I try to continue this conversation more."

"Wife, There is sadness within happiness as well, for example; we are happy married but sad because distance, do you understand what I'm trying to say?..so the situation is never clear, always somehow strange. For example if a couple is very happily married, they love each other crazy, many children and money but if someone from their family dies, there will be sadness there although it is a very happy family. Do you understand? I'm trying to talk about happiness generally."

"OK i understand my happiness and sadness,..." I teas my husband with my answer.... "..ha..ha you make me laugh wife..."
"You know, in here people ask each other all the time, are you happy, are you happy... and it bothers me alot, cause in my family we never ask each other about that. We don't have that expression cause we know life is tough! It is not easy and everybody has to work hard to live and we don't use that word happy. In here everybody does that. You can meet someone in the street and as soon they hear you are married or have a girlfriend, they will immediately ask you; are you happy?" Then my husband give question mark on his face....???????

"What kind of question is that...Stupid!!... life is tough and we have to work through it, work hard and no relationship is perfect!"

"Ok, now since you ask me, I just use that to talk about it (happiness) - my hubby continue it- I guess first thing would be my health, then my love, or all together. I don't know, I think they fall into same category health, love, relative, job, they all make me happy if I have it."

"If i have health I'm happy, if i have love I'm happy, if i have relatives (brother, sister, sister in law...etc) I'm happy, if i have job I'm happy ...etc, do you understand now wife?" he smile at me ... then he continued it again... "If I don't have my love (you) I'm not happy, If i don't have health I wont be happy, if I don't have family, I wont be happy."

"Yes I do understand that now, you are my good teacher." I hold my husband after listening all his explanations. "I try wife," he hold me too while stretching his body and kissing me softly...

"I know life is tough not just a dream, I agree with you about that." I give my opinion to my husband "but I will be sad if u are sad."

"I know Baby, like I said, I'm very happy with you, that I have you but because we have each other doesn't mean everything now is easy for us. We still have to find job and bring food home, and clean, and cook, and work, and all the things we always did and because we are humans, and not perfect. We sometime argue, fight, get sick,...etc. That makes us worry and sad, that is life. People here break up very easy, so many divorces because they wake up one morning and say I'm not happy anymore and they decided to go to their own way.I disagree with that"

"Husband, I ever read a book, it said GOD created sad and happy to make the life will be so dynamic, is it true?"

"Yes, wife..." he said while lying down on the bed.

Then I continued, "and it also could bring joy to life, coz after sad We will get happiness, for example after fighting with my sister, we both cried together and then now we feel like a new girlfriend or new couple."

"ha..ha.. nice, wife" he laugh and smile at me again." You both are sweet sister... hmm... it's getting late, seems like good for us to sleep now," He said.

Yes, it's close to 12 a.m now. We prepare our self to sleep. This is a good conversation I thought, and more important thing is it can make me be more realistic. Have a good nite sleep Baby, and thank you for your love (falimenderit per dashurine tende)...

Suddenly he whispered... "Terima kasih wife"...